• 只对你好的人,可能是出于某种目的或利益,而不是真心地关心你。他们可能会利用你的弱点,或者在你不知情的情况下伤害你。他们对你好,也可能是一时的冲动或新鲜感,随着时间的推移,他们可能会改变态度或失去兴趣。

  • 本来就很好的人,是指那些有良好的品质和习惯,对自己和他人都有正面的影响,能够真诚地表达自己的感受和需求,也能够尊重和理解他人的感受和需求。他们对你好,是因为他们本身就有这样的能力和意愿,而不是因为你有什么特别之处。

  • 找一个本来就很好的人,可以让你感受到更多的安全感和信任感,也可以让你得到更多的成长和进步。因为他们不会随意地伤害你或利用你,也不会因为一时的情绪或冲动而做出不负责任的事情。他们会用实际的行动和言语来支持你和鼓励你,也会用合理的方式来沟通和解决问题。

  • 找一个本来就很好的人,也可以让你更加了解自己和爱自己。因为他们不会让你觉得自己只是因为被对方喜欢而有价值,也不会让你觉得自己必须为了对方而改变自己。他们会让你看到自己本身就有很多优点和潜力,也会让你发现自己可以做更多更好的事情。

当然,并不是说只对你好的人就一定不值得爱,或者本来就很好的人就一定能够给你幸福。每个人都有自己的选择和判断,每段关系都有自己的特点和挑战。重要的是,你能够清楚地认识到自己想要什么样的伴侣,以及自己能够给予什么样的爱。

  • Someone who is good to you only, may be out of some purpose or interest, rather than sincerely caring about you. They may use your weaknesses, or hurt you without your knowledge. They are good to you, may also be a momentary impulse or novelty, and they may change their attitude or lose interest over time.

  • Someone who is good in themselves, refers to those who have good qualities and habits, have a positive impact on themselves and others, can express their feelings and needs sincerely, and can respect and understand the feelings and needs of others. They are good to you, because they have such ability and willingness, not because you have anything special.

  • Finding someone who is good in themselves, can make you feel more secure and trustful, and can also make you get more growth and progress. Because they will not hurt you or use you arbitrarily, nor will they do irresponsible things because of a momentary emotion or impulse. They will support and encourage you with practical actions and words, and will also communicate and solve problems in a reasonable way.

  • Finding someone who is good in themselves, can also make you understand yourself and love yourself more. Because they will not make you feel that you are valuable only because you are liked by the other party, nor will they make you feel that you have to change yourself for the other party. They will let you see that you have many advantages and potentials in yourself, and will also let you discover that you can do more and better things.


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离谱
离谱2023-10-01 12:49

另外,这个世界是多元的,不是非 0 即 1 。本来就很好的人,也可能是一时的冲动或新鲜感,随着时间的推移,他们可能会改变态度或失去兴趣。只对你好的人,可能对别人不好也不坏,我也能说对你好可能是因为和你在一起觉得开心。我觉得这种想当然的揣测有一点天真烂漫了。 人是复杂的。对事不对人或许会比对人不对事更客观一些。

离谱
离谱2023-10-01 12:55

@离谱首先,老好人是找不到对象的 其次,正因为一个人足够优秀,足够优秀,所以社会人们能够容忍这一个人的缺点。是的,社会人们就是这么贱啊! 最后,社会人们最终喜欢的不是好人,也不是坏人;社会人们最终喜欢的是那些 “有大大的资本 足以让社会人们去容忍其缺点” 的人。

LS
LS2023-10-07 11:06

怎么知道别人是本来就很好,还是只对你好呢?

离谱
离谱2023-10-14 10:18

@LS这个只能凭自己的经验或者价值观去判断,每个人对好坏的标准是不一致的。或许从传统的美德去衡量,会是比较基础的开始。

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